{"id":9048,"date":"2022-06-02T19:21:00","date_gmt":"2022-06-02T07:21:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blog.myfoodbag.co.nz\/?p=9048"},"modified":"2023-08-09T12:35:41","modified_gmt":"2023-08-09T00:35:41","slug":"shaking-off-the-meh-with-dr-amanda-wallis-from-umbrella-wellbeing","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.myfoodbag.co.nz\/explore\/2022\/06\/02\/shaking-off-the-meh-with-dr-amanda-wallis-from-umbrella-wellbeing\/","title":{"rendered":"Shaking Off The ‘Meh’, with Dr Amanda Wallis from Umbrella Wellbeing"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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Shaking off the \u2018meh\u2019 and moving towards flourishing<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Have you felt a bit \u2018off\u2019 or \u2018meh\u2019 at times over the last few weeks? Us too \u2013 you\u2019re not alone. As the winter chill sets in and we juggle all the commitments we have up in the air, it\u2019s not surprising that some of us have fallen into a state that psychologists call \u2018languishing\u2019. Luckily, there\u2019s an alternative state that is built through our small, everyday habits: \u2018flourishing\u2019.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Languishing exists on a separate dimension from disorders like depression or generalised anxiety. We usually notice it when we have bouts of feeling \u201cmeh\u201d, uninspired and stagnant, low mood and largely joy-less.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Flourishing, on the other hand, is when we feel good and function well – with that reassuring sense that life is good, meaningful, and worthwhile. Flourishing operates at the top end of the mental health continuum with languishing operating at the bottom end. We know from research<\/a> that it\u2019s possible to experience languishing and,<\/em> in the same hour, day or week, move up the continuum towards flourishing (and back again!)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We might notice feeling a bit glum over breakfast while checking the news, which tips us into a bad mood when the traffic is backed up on our way into the office. Perhaps it stays that way, or perhaps a colleague takes us out for a coffee, leading us to feel connected and energised. This then helps us tick off our work tasks and leaves us in a good mood when we get home to our wh\u0101nau. So, we find ourselves at the end of the day feeling good and flourishing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Fortunately, for most of us, it\u2019s the small things, our everyday habits and rituals, that we can use to create those nudges towards flourishing when we need them. A team of psychology researchers<\/a> from around the world recently described these habits as buffering <\/em>and bolstering <\/em>mental health.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Buffering bad mood with flow<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

We live in a time where we are experiencing the news \u201clive\u201d, alongside a constant barrage of notifications, not just once a day or once a week but every hour or every minute. As a result, our brains can feel like they are always on, always processing, and always alert to threat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This alertness can also lead to our mood being dictated by the alerts on our devices. We can help to combat this by setting boundaries around device use \u2013 not checking work emails after we sign off, for example, or leaving our phones in another room when we are trying to relax.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The other downside of being constantly \u2018available\u2019 and susceptible to the emotional roller-coaster of our notifications, is that we miss out on experiencing that sweet spot psychologists call being in \u201cflow<\/a>\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are in flow when our abilities match the challenge of the task – leading us to a state where we feel focused and engaged, whether that\u2019s alone or with others. Flow shakes off that sometimes heavy sense of self-consciousness that we carry with us, and we lose track of time altogether.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Depending on who you are, you might find your flow state when you are running, writing, cooking, having a deep chat with a friend, playing video games or even cleaning. It\u2019s important to note that you don\u2019t need to be an expert in any one of those things \u2013 you can achieve flow on a gentle run around the block just as easily as a seasoned marathon runner might.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Experiencing a flow state helps to buffer low mood because it shifts our focus away from what we can\u2019t control, and towards what we can. It keeps our minds (and usually our hands) engaged, and doing more of it, more of the time, can bring us back in touch with the things that bring us joy and, therefore, help us to flourish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bolstering mental health with connection<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

As well as finding our flow state, research shows<\/a> that we can move towards flourishing by boosting what psychologists from the University of North Carolina call \u201cpositivity resonance\u201d \u2013 a technical name for intentionally sharing positive emotions with others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It may sound obvious, and for many of us it comes naturally when we eat dinner with our wh\u0101nau or video-call a friend, but it can also slip away from us if we aren\u2019t fiercely guarding it. Dinner conversations can give way to dinner around the TV, or we can feel \u201ctoo busy\u201d to join the office daily quiz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The key idea of positivity resonance is that positive emotion is much more powerful when it is shared with someone else. That\u2019s because shared positivity has been found to \u201cbroaden and build\u201d our emotional resources, meaning that it isn\u2019t only enjoyable in the moment, but that it multiplies, leading to more and more positive emotion, and connection, over time.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Try adding just one new habit to your daily routine with a loved one, such as turning up the feel-good music when you\u2019re both driving in the car. Or, at work, see if you can schedule a walking meeting with a colleague instead of staying at your desks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The goal is about shifting the dial more towards flourishing more of the time, not about eliminating unpleasant emotions altogether. Experiment and see how it works \u2013 does having a laugh with a friend help you shift your mood when you\u2019re feeling a little bit \u2018meh\u2019? How can you get more of it into your life?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moving towards flourishing \u2013 one step at a time<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It can feel overwhelming when we are feeling down, or languishing, to read about all of the many different things we are supposed to do to feel better (exercise, connect, meditate, eat healthy, sleep well… the list goes on!) Sometimes this well-meaning advice leaves us feeling worse, not better, leading to more time stuck in our languishing state.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019re looking for just one place to start to turn your day, or your week around, try to pick an activity that fulfils your sense of flow, or leads to shared positive emotion with someone else. Even better \u2013 find one that gives you both.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, we need to actively make space for these activities \u2013 at work and at home \u2013 especially when we are feeling low. Otherwise, if we don\u2019t intervene, we can lose our precious days to languishing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For those who are struggling with those large stressors in life that really test our coping strategies to their limits \u2013 grief and bereavement, serious illness, depression, unemployment, and more \u2013 the strategies above may not resonate. Please reach out for help and utilise the networks available to you through loved ones and <\/em>support services<\/em><\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Author information:<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dr Amanda Wallis leads the research programme at <\/em>Umbrella Wellbeing<\/em><\/a> and is passionate about making psychological research useable in our everyday lives.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Umbrella Wellbeing is formed by a team of psychologists who provide end-to-end workplace wellbeing support. We partner with organisations to consult on strategic wellbeing, build leadership skills and competence in managing wellbeing and mental health, and help develop high performing and resilient teams. You can find us on <\/em>LinkedIn here<\/em><\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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